This article is only written to those single people who are very interested in getting married in the near future. If that’s not you now, please enjoy and take advantage of the freedom that your singleness offers!
On the issue of singleness here are some of my present thoughts and encouragements, mainly written for women, based off recent conversations, a friend asking me to write on “purity,” and my own devotional reading centered on Paul’s letter to the Corinthians. Here Paul is mainly giving his own wisdom and advice.
The following are 10 things I have learned in my own journey of singleness that I want to pass on to all of the ladies in waiting. I say “Ladies in Waiting” not because you are sitting around waiting for your prince charming, but because you are waiting on the Lord for all things, including the release of your husband. I hope and pray you are encouraged by some of the things God has revealed to me that have strengthened me in this particular journey of the heart. Not in any particular order…
June 4, 2010
I have just experienced breaking up with my boyfriend after about a year and a half on and off. I have also heard from several other friends that they also have experienced a breakup from their boyfriends. The following is dedicated to them and is something I wanted to share of some of the things God has been speaking to me in the aftermath that might also bring encouragement to the brokenhearted whom God promises to remain close to (For “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” -Psalm 147:3)
AUTHOR AND FINISHER
While I may not be translating this according to its original meaning, the Holy Spirit has used the passage in Hebrews 12 speak to me nonetheless. I have realized that it is God is the Author and Finisher of not only my faith but also my relationships. I really do feel that God brought me together and then also that He led me apart in my last relationship. I have come to understand that the season I had with him was a gift and for that time period God used us both in each others lives. I have also been encouraged to trust that because He is the Author of my relationships, that He will stir up, awaken, and initiate love in His timing in my future.
NOT SETTLING FOR SILVER
I am thankful that God won’t let me settle for silver but that He is intent on giving me exceedingly abundantly above all I could ever ask or imagine (Ephesians 3:20). Not that the last person I was with was silver, he was gold, but just not my gold. Sometimes it takes time and commitment with a person before figuring that out. God has spoken to me big time through the following verse that I hope will also bring encouragement to each of you, and also in light because I know each of you have already read Silver to Gold hopefully it will mean even something more:
Haggai 2:8-9 “‘The silver is Mine, and the gold is Mine,’ says the Lord of hosts. ‘The glory of this latter temple shall be greater than the former…and in this place I will give peace,’ says the Lord of hosts.”
I love that its all in His hands and that the gold is going to be so much better than the silver we have experienced in our lives and that for the future He promises peace. For this I am grateful and I pray that in the midst of the hard time of transitioning out of relationships, that his peace that passes al understanding not only abounds but also has a restorative affect on our hearts.
Finally I am thankful that each one of us has chosen to live the abundant life that Jesus promised in John 10:10. Abundant life is more readily translated as full life here; a life full of joys and sorrows, highs and lows. I think we each need to pat ourselves on the back in the fact that we risked, we opened our hearts, we chose to feel and to live life rather than hide and guard and protect ourselves from anything real. It’s been very hard emotionally for me because of things that have been done after the fact and I know for some of you as well, but regardless, how cool is that we are living and alive in this world, that we are actually feeling, that we have love and lost rather than never loving at all.
May the Holy Spirit enter into our alive and wounded hearts and pour out an amazing amount of mercy, forgiveness, compassion, and hope. May the fullness of His Spirit overwhelm those deep places of brokenness to bring complete healing. May He truly prepare us for our gold, satisfy us deeply with His love and security, and let forgiveness freely flow. Amen.
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